Hoeing Dahlias at the Crack of Dawn
- Debra Flaming
- Aug 12
- 2 min read
Updated: Aug 24
There’s something quietly sacred about working side by side with the one you love before the rest of the world has even stirred.
This morning, Dion and I were out in the dahlia field at the crack of dawn, hoes in hand, our boots damp from the dew. The air was still cool, the first streaks of sunlight stretching across the sky. We didn’t say much — we didn’t need to. There’s a comfort in being together without words, in knowing that your presence is enough.
Dion and I are very different in how we see the world. He’s the visionary — always looking ahead, seeing what could be. He imagines possibilities and dreams big dreams for our farm, our family, our future. I’m more of an in the moment person. I notice what needs doing now, I find satisfaction in the day’s accomplishments, and yes — I’m that person who loves a good list (and checking things off it!).
Out here in the rows, our differences complement each other. His vision gives me direction. My lists help his dreams take root. And in the early morning light, it all works together without us having to talk about it. Sometimes the most meaningful connection happens in shared silence.
I’ve learned that part of loving well is giving space — letting your partner breathe, think, or simply be. I’ve also learned that working together can deepen a relationship in ways that just “living together” can’t. Whether it’s tending flowers, painting a room, building a puzzle, or cooking a meal — shared projects build trust, teamwork, and mutual respect.
Not everyone gets to work side by side with their spouse every day, but I’d encourage you to find something you can do together. It doesn’t have to be grand — it can be as simple as planting a few flowers, baking bread, or taking a walk. And if it’s not your spouse, maybe it’s a best friend, a sibling, or a neighbor. Life is richer when you share it.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us: “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” When God is at the center of our lives and relationships, He strengthens the bond between us. That’s what keeps us steady — through the hoeing and the harvesting, the vision-casting and the list-making, the quiet mornings and the loud ones too.
And so, we’ll keep hoeing the dahlias at the crack of dawn — not just because the weeds need tending, but because the soul does too.
Debra Flaming
